Thursday, July 12, 2012


I woke up today thinking I would write about my non-existent race season and how I planned to be prepared for next season.  I actually started writing about it.  But as I was putting Pnut in her room, as she's kicking and screaming that I don't love her, I decided to write about something else.

I've been beating myself up recently, about all of my short coming.  In a moment of clarity (or maybe a hallucination brought about by a kick to the head from my darling daughter) I thought "Would you say the things you say to yourself, to a friend?"  Would I tell a friend she was a bad mother because she didn't give her children a fruit or a vegetable with breakfast (or lunch or dinner) ? Certainly not.  But I will beat myself up about it. Parenting is a ridiculously hard job.  Every time I think I'm doing something right, BAM! something happens.  I've decided I'm going to be nicer to myself.  I'm going to do some Stuart Smally affirmations :)  

Thank you Wikipedia 

  • You are a good mom!
  • It is not your job to entertain your children 24 hours a day.
  • No one will get scurvy from a day (or 2) without fruits and vegetables.
  • There is nothing wrong with your children wearing dirty socks (or pants) because you haven't done laundry.
  • Pnut knows you love her, even if she's angry at all the attention Little Dude is getting from potty training.
  • People who give you dirty looks because your children aren't behaving, do not know anything about you or your children.  They don't know how hard you (and your children) try.
  • You only have so much control over what your children do. You don't take credit for the great things they do, why do you take blame for the "bad" things?
That's all I have time for now.  Nap time is almost over.  I'm guessing hoping I'm not the only one who feels defeated at times.  Be nice to yourself!  Remember you're good enough, you're strong enough, and, doggonit, people like you!! 
I hope it's ok I borrowed that from SNL.  Guessing no one from there reads my blog. 


  1. I love this! Yes, I feel the same way at times and I think it's good to talk nicely to ourselves during those times:) good job and you are a good mom!

    1. Thank you! I'm glad to know I'm not alone.

  2. Thanks... I can really relate to this. In my 18 short weeks of being a mother I am amazed at The world of things there are I can feel guilty about or beat myself up about now.

    I think you must be an amazing mother to have even had these thoughts... It shows you care. At the end of the day that is all our children will remember. Did we love em... YES!

    1. Thanks and congratulations on your new baby!! Remember to be good to yourself.

  3. I'm reading and contacting SNL after I finish Cherub's laundry, make sure he's done his chores, cook dinner and catch up on Trash TV.